The Wisdom and Beauty of Premarital Counseling


Marriage marks a beautiful and fundamental change in the lives of every couple. This is a continuation of the visionary journey that begins during the initial phase of each relationship, when couples open their hearts and minds to the reality of one another’s lifelong commitments. Engagement moves them forward in strengthening that commitment, while adding a spark to the fire of their dedicated love and dreams they share for their future. Let me take a few moments to present how premarital counseling fits in with the process of achieving those martial dreams.

Premarital counseling serves as one of the most unique and important elements of this visionary journey, because it gives couples with a forum to wade through the deep waters of their love, while learning to carefully cross the fearsome peaks and gaping valleys their differences. Taking a trip like that is a journey that requires the help, knowledge and wisdom of people who are skilled in helping others navigate joyful and difficult parts of such efforts.


Engaged couples who are willing to devote their time to premarital counseling pay attention to the call of wisdom and effectively work towards preparation and strengthening their relationship for long-term marriage trips.

“Don’t leave wisdom, and he will protect you; love him, and he will watch over you.” (Proverbs 4: 6)

This section of the Bible highlights the protection we experience when we choose to acquire and apply wisdom, and serves to encourage us all to pursue it.

Wisdom is something that comes to us in various forms. It comes to us when we learn from the experiences of others, who have crossed the area we are living in. It may also come to us when we learn from our own life experiences, including risks, mistakes, successes and failures that make life a great adventure.

The reality is there are different paths to wisdom, some are more subtle than others. However, it is up to us to determine which path we will take when obtaining the wisdom related to building a healthy marriage.


Reading a book and talking to someone about a healthy marriage is one thing. This is a completely different story when you have to apply that learning to you who will soon become a partner, especially when emotions are involved. This is why my work with premarital couples will often focus on two main elements: Active Education and Learning. These elements represent the path to wisdom that we mentioned earlier.

Education is the process of informing couples about the main principles that will enable them to have a strong and healthy marriage. Active learning is the process of really helping them apply those principles when they discuss the dynamics that are different from their relationship. These fields include communication, money, sex, spirituality, extended family, and the role of relationships among many other fields.

After couples really work through these two main processes, they are better equipped to navigate the ups and downs of marriage, and have a greater understanding of how to help each other feel loved, valued, and emotionally connected throughout their relationship.


Beyond all the well-known practical reasons for premarital counseling is something emotional, less real, and very valuable. This is the sentiment that underlies the relationship and love that the couple will fight hard to maintain between them, and still often fails to see materialized in the long run. This is not because they are unable to experience eternal love, but because there is a disruption in the way they convey their love.

I’ve heard that believing that you can experience lasting romance in a relationship is unreasonable, but I would say that giving up trust is even more absurd. There is a reason why the fight for this kind of relationship between couples is so vibrant and enduring, even after several points of conflict.

The truth is that every heart longs for something very passionate and romantic with a lover who fills his heart and mind and reaches the level of ecstasy that causes us to abandon every idea of ‚Äč‚Äčtime. Yes, eternal is the way I describe this type of love. But why is it something that feels beyond our reach, especially with those we have made our lives. Is that biology? Is that familiarity over time? Or do we lose sight of this romantic love? My hunches really point to the last of these questions, although I will not negate the first two.

My point is that if you are willing to consistently do what is needed to help your partner, lover, married person, or whatever you decide to call them, be satisfied with your love, then I dare say it will be difficult to lose the romance that can You experience as a partner. After saying all this, premarital counseling is something that can help you to explore clearly in this direction, so that your understanding of each other and what is needed by maintaining a deeper sentiment of love will be firmly embedded in eternity. the foundation of your marriage.


Having a lasting marriage is not a matter of coincidence. This is a heart problem. It is at this sacred place that every man and woman determine what they want their marriage to be, and how they will contribute to that goal. This is an area where their faith and character collide to produce persistent love that is not destroyed or distracted over time.

However, being effective in helping other significant people experience your love from time to time is a matter of sharing your heart openly in a way that feels less like communication and more like fellowship. Reaching that level of interaction is the result of having a clear feeling about how to unite your heart and words with their words, thereby achieving such goals. That’s where premarital counseling can serve you well.